Monday, October 27, 2014

2014 Election Recommendations

I'm often asked for my thoughts on elections and I'm honored to have that trust placed in me by family and friends. This election cycle presents me with a very difficult position as I have several friends running in the same elections. I've pledged to remain neutral publicly in those races. I will have a difficult decision to make myself in some of these races so I urge you to do what I'm going to do - pray, and go with the leading of the Lord!

One area I don't mind sharing some thoughts on is regarding the Constitutional Amendments. Louisiana is unique in that we seem to have more amendments to our constitution on a regular basis than any other state. Some of the amendments make sense, as they deal with areas that had not been addressed before or clarify existing law.. Other amendments, though, could more properly be taken care of through statues, rather than amending the constitution.

One area of particular concern is the continued use of constitutional amendments to protect certain funds from being used for other purposes. As we've added more and more of these types of amendments, we've restricted our lawmakers' abilities to make adjustments and balance the budget. So as a general rule I have become opposed to this type of amendment. Our legislators should have both the restraint to use money for its original purpose, as well as the freedom to make adjustments in times of financial crisis. So my recommendations below in those matters will be "NO," even though the cause may be well and just. We've got to stop using the constitution to create protected classes and special exemptions.

(In the interest of full disclosure, I have supported such constitutional amendments in the past, but I have seen that that just brings more and more people to the table asking for their constitutional protection. Maybe it 's time for a new Constitutional Convention, and a fresh start?)

And now on to my thoughts about the 2014 proposed Constitutional Amendments:

1. Medical Trust Fund and Healthcare Provider Base Rate - NO
This is one of those funds that seeks constitutional protection. While its cause is good (protecting the Medical Assistance Trust Fund), it also eliminate certain groups from the same protections it seeks to provide to nursing homes and certain other healthcare providers.

2. Medical Assessment, Trust Fund and Fee Formula - NO
Same reason as above. Creating constitutional protections for a certain class of health care providers – hospitals – will create problems for other programs without this special status. This should be done through statute rather than through amending the constitution.

3. Sales of Property with Delinquent Taxes - YES
This would allow local governments the option to use a private firm to assist in the collection of delinquent property taxes and the process of selling property whose owners are tax delinquent. This is very much needed for the many municipalities throughout our state that need assistance in navigating the complex issue of selling properties that have defaulted on their taxes. (PLEASE VOTE YES as this would help PINEVILLE!)

4. Fund Transfers for an Infrastructure Bank - YES
This would allow the State Treasurer to invest public funds into a Louisiana Transportation Infrastructure Bank, in the event that such a bank is created. Louisiana's aging infrastructure is at a critical crossroads and if we don't do something soon to repair and upgrade our infrastructure, we will not be able to catch up. This is one piece of a larger puzzle, but it's a good start.

5. Elimination of the Mandatory Retirement Age of Judges - YES
This would eliminate the mandatory retirement age of 70 for judges. This is the only elected position that has a mandatory retirement age. The ballot box is a better place to deal with judges that may be incompetent, rather than a blanket policy that throws out many of our most experienced judges (who often retire and then are hired back as ad hoc judges by the LA Supreme Court!).

6. Higher Millage Cap for Police and Fire Protection in Orleans Parish - YES
This would cap on millage rates for police and fire protection from five to 10 mills ONLY IN ORLEANS PARISH, giving the New Orleans City Council authority to levy additional mills with voter approval. This doesn't raise the rates, only allows the people of New Orleans to vote it themselves. (Because New Orleans is such a unique place, there are many exemptions in the Constitution for situations that are specific to their setting.)

7. Property Tax Exemption for Certain Disabled Veterans - YES
This would give a bonus homestead exemption to veterans rated with 100% “unemployability” in parishes where a similar tax break has been approved by voters. Many parishes have given special homestead exemptions to veterans with 100% disability ratings. This would extend that to veterans who are classified as "unemployable" due to service-related injuries. A small concession to those who paid a high price to serve our country, in my opinion.

8. Artificial Reef Development Fund - NO
This would establish the Artificial Reef Development Fund in the Constitution and prohibit using its money for purposes other than those described in the amendment. The fund already exists, but it it has often been raided to help balance the budget. While I think it is a noble cause, for the reasons outlined above, I can no longer support creating constitutionally protected funds, no matter how noble the purpose.

9. Tax Exemption Reporting for Permanently Disabled Residents - NO
This would eliminate the requirement that homeowners under the age of 65 who are permanently disabled must certify every year that their income meets the threshold for an assessment freeze. This would only affect approximately 5,660 people across yhe state. Eliminating the re-verification requirement would mean that assessors would be dependent on homeowners voluntarily reporting that their income had risen above the threshhold. An annual verification does not seem too burdensome to assure faireness.

10. Tax Sale of Vacant, Blighted or Abandoned Property - YES
This would shorten the redemption period for vacant blighted or abandoned property sold at a tax sale to 18 months after the sale has been recorded. This ONLY applies to vacant property declared "blight" by the taxing authority. If a homeowner simply falls behind on paying taxes and is still occupying the property, they still have the full three-year redemption period. (Note, Orleans Parish has had this 18-month window for blighted property since 1995 and it has helped them fight blight by getting properties to the tax sale sooner. This would expand that well-proven practice statewide.) (PLEASE VOTE YES as this would help PINEVILLE!)

11. Increases the Number of State Departments from 20 to 21 (Creating Department of Elderly Affairs) - NO
This would increase the limit of allowed state government departments from 20 to 21, effectively creating a Department of Elderly Affairs. As a proponent of smaller government, I don't think a whole new DEPARTMENT is needed. This could be more properly done through an existing department, saving much money.)

12. Louisiana Wildlife and Fisheries Commission Membership - YES
This would change the membership of the Wildlife and Fisheries Commission to require that two at-large members come from parishes north of a line created by Allen, Avoyelles, Beauregard, Evangeline and Pointe Coupee. The current makeup has 6 of the 7 members appointed from south Louisiana. This would give a more equal voice to the central and northern part of the state.

13. Orleans Lower Ningth Ward Vacant Property - YES
This would allow government-owned property in the Lower Ninth Ward in New Orleans to be sold to specified classes of buyers at a nominal rate to be established by the Legislature. As we all know, Katrina devastated New Orleans and they are still reeling from its impact. This would allow New Orleans to put more vacated and blighted property back onto the tax rolls by allowing them to be sold a less than the past-due taxes. Otherwise New Orleans will own these properties forever because no one will buy them.

14. Tax Rebates, Incentives and Abatements - NO
This would forbid the introduction of legislation related to tax rebates, tax incentives or tax abatements in even-numbered years when the Legislature holds a general session and specifically allow such legislation in odd-numbered years during fiscal sessions. The constitution calls for a fiscal-only session of the legislature every other year. However, tax rebates, incentives and abatements got left out of that ruling and this amendment seeks to include them. However, these are great tools used to attract out of state industries and businesses to Louisiana, and to restrict their use to every other year would hinder Louisiana's economic recovery and growth.

Remember, these are all IMO - In My Opinion. You should read the amendments and make your own decisions. Two WONDERFUL tools to help you get educated are the Public Affairs Council of Louisiana's Guide to the 2014 Constitutional Amendments (which I used extensively in explaining the amendments above) and the Council for A Better Louisiana's Recommendations. PAR doesn't make any recommendations and simply presents both sides of the issue. CABL does make recommendations, but explains why they make those recommendations. While I didn't follow their recommendations down the line, I did find their reasoning very helpful in helping me come to my own conclusions.

Monday, July 21, 2014

Reflections on Larry Jeane

Yesterday I received the heartbreaking news that my friend, Pineville City Marshal Larry Jeane, had died due to complications resulting from a car accident on Friday. It was a horrible shock as just the day before the doctors were saying that he was stable, had done very well in the surgeries to repair his broken leg and multiple lacerations. We were preparing for a long road of recovery. But the trauma to his body was just too much and Sunday afternoon he passed away. Larry was a dear friend and his death truly is a shock and a tremendous loss, both personally and to our entire community.

I was contacted by our local paper, The Town Talk, to give some reflections on Larry, which I gladly did. However, knowing the constraints of the newspaper and that they will probably only be able to use a sentence or two of what I wrote, I wanted to share my email to the Town Talk with you as my personal tribute to Larry:

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Hi Jodi,

Thanks for allowing me to share some thoughts on my friendship with Larry Jeane. It's so hard to summarize a 30+ year friendship in a couple of sentences. Let me give you a few highlights and then, hopefully, a couple of comments that you might could use in the article.

I met Larry in 1983 when he was warden of WTFN (Work Training Facility North). I had just graduated high school and was working with a prison ministry called "Prison Invasion" which was a nationwide effort to bring laypeople into prisons for one-on-one contact with prisoners over a weekend. I called to set up an appointment with Larry and when I showed up he says he asked his assistant warden where this little boy's daddy was. :) He took an instant liking to me and allowed me to minister on a regular basis in his prison until I moved to Texas to go to missionary training school and then to Mexico to serve as a missionary.

After I returned from Mexico in the early 90's we reconnected as he was the director of Handi-Works Productions which provided jobs for the mentally challenged. He always had a soft spot for people with challenges.

I was a part of a group of ministers who met at McDonald's every week (we jokingly referred to ourselves as the "McMinisters" and Larry started meeting with us on a regular basis. He always had a joke or story to tell that left us in stitches. He was an honorary "McMinister" and was well loved by all the ministers for his willingness to help out any worthy cause.

Our church has an annual celebration each March which includes dinner on the grounds. Larry has cooked the meat for that meal for us for so many years, I can't remember when he didn't do it. We purchased  the meat but he always refused payment, even though he would often be up all night watching the pit.

In 2003 we started working with an orphanage in Reynosa, Mexico. Larry cooked a BBQ fundraiser for us to help start the ministry and has helped in so many ways over the years. He's cooked so many meals for non-profit groups, senior groups, LC football, other groups ... I doubt there's a person in Central Louisiana who hasn't eaten a chicken cooked by Larry, whether they know it or not!

Another cause that Larry was passionate about was helping Wounded War Veterans. He helped establish an entity that provides assistance to wounded war veterans where 100% of the donations go to the veterans. He did the fundraising himself (again, cooking MANY chickens), twisted arms for in-kind donations, and was passionate about advocating for our returning wounded soldiers. 

Larry was a personal friend who lived only a block away. He sometimes rode his mule to the house and let my daughters ride with him. One day he saw that we had a couple of orange leather chairs in the garage that my wife's father had given her. (He told us they were elephant hide.) Larry, being the LC fanatic that he was, just HAD to have those chairs as they were so unique, so he traded us a pistol for them. He wouldn't take them as a gift.

Larry's love for LC and pride in the institution is the reason the City Marshal's color scheme for vehicles, uniforms, etc, is blue and orange. Larry also had his El Camino painted in those distinctive colors with a menacing Wildcat on the tailgate. That was his pride and joy.

Larry loved music, especially country music, and he taught himself to play the guitar. He also wrote a few songs and they were very good. Somewhere along the line he acquired a "banjitar" which is a banjo body with a guitar neck, allowing a guitar player to sound like a banjo player. He loaned that to my dad about a decade ago and always loved to hear my dad play it. My dad recently returned it to him, over his objections, because my father bought his own and said Larry's children should have that instrument one day. I didn't know it would be so soon.

Hopefully that gives you a little background on my friend, Larry. There's so much more I could say about him but I wanted to give you some color or background to balance out the press release or eulogy. If I could give you a quote that I'd love you to use, it's this: Larry was a larger than life friend who cared for his community and made our world a better place. There is a huge vacuum in our hearts that will not be easily filled.

Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts about my friend, Larry Jeane.

Blessings,
Nathan

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There you have it. My friend, Larry Jeane, will be horribly missed. My prayers are with his wife, Johanne and their children, Paul and Joan and the whole family. As much as my heart hurts, I can't imagine the pain they are experiencing. Please keep them in your prayers. Thank you, "Big Brother," for being my friend.

Sincerely,
Nathan

Sunday, December 08, 2013

Our Adoption Story ... Part 7

Greetings from Cali, Colombia!

It's been a little over a month since my last update and so much has happened since then that it's going to be hard to catch up. So rather than give you a detailed overview, let me give you a timeline of what has happened since my last update:
  • Nov 6: We submitted our paperwork (including passports) for the Colombian TP-8 visa, which is required for adoptive parents. We also filed for the children's DS260 Visa applications to give them permission to enter the US after the adoption was completed. (All this was done on the road and upon arrival to Dallas for the Right Now Conference!)
  • Nov 11: We picked up our final medical clearances from our doctors as required by the Colombian adoption agency. We also purchased our round-trip tickets to Colombia and the children's one-way tickets back to the US.
  • Nov 12: Lori traveled to the Secretary of State's office in Baton Rouge to have the medical reports "apostilled" which all notarized documents are required to have. Normally we would mail these but the time sensitive nature of our trip required this extra step.
  • Nov 14: Paid our final fee to Caroline Adoption Services. Also booked a hotel room in Bogota for our overnight stay before flying into our final destination of Armenia, Colombia.
  • Nov 15: Started with a bang! Got a phone call from Colombia that the electronic system used to approve visas had been down for more than 24 hours and that if it wasn't back up within an hour we would have to go to "Plan B" (which had never been tested before!) I was just stepping in to lead my weekly chapel service at Grace Christian School so I went in and asked the 200 children to pray with me for a miracle. We prayed and then had our time of worship. When worship was finished, I pulled my cellphone out to access my Bible and saw I had an email from the Colombian Consulate with our visa approval!!! I told the children they had just been part of a miracle!!! Later that day we also received an email telling us of the the preparations being done with the children for our arrival and that they are very eager to meet their parents!
  • Nov 16: The Colombian Consulate had not checked "Saturday Delivery" on the FedEx envelope containing our passports, leading to mass anxiety! Our passports arrived in Alexandria Saturday morning but were not scheduled to be delivered until Monday morning! After multiple calls to FedEx, Lori was allowed to drive to the local FedEx office and sign for the passports!!!
  • Nov 17: We left the house at 4:30AM to pick up my parents who drove us to the airport for our 6:00AM flight to Atlanta where we camped out all day until our 5:30PM flight to Bogota (getting to watch the services live from Christian Challenge as we waited in the airport). We arrived around 11:00PM, went through immigration and customs and got to our hotel after midnight.
  • Nov 18: It was a short night as we had to leave the hotel at 6:00AM for our flight to Armenia. Avianca ended up merging two flights together and we didn't leave until close to 11:00AM. We arrived around noon in Armenia and Magnolia Franco, our incredible guide and facilitator, was there waiting for us, after leaving her home town of Cali at 6:00AM also.
  • Nov 19: We met with the interdisciplinary team at 2:00PM, consisting of the director of adoptions, the children's legal defender, the psychologist, social worker and nutritionist who have all worked on the children's case since they were admitted to child protective services nearly 4 years ago. We gained great insight into the children's past as well as their routines and current development.
  • Nov 20: "Encuentro Day!" (Also known as "Gotcha Day!") Our emotions were through the roof as we prepared to meet the children for the first time at 11:00AM. They arrived all dressed up with little backpacks containing everything they owned and balloons (which were gifts for us). It was a joyful meeting, at first, but after a little while Karen began to cry, first a soft whimper and then a full-grown sobbing, heart-breaking cry. Anderson joined her shortly afterwards, probably more because of her crying than for anything he understood. The emotions of the day had caught up with them and the uncertainness of their future overwhelmed them as they realized they were leaving everything behind they had ever known.
    It was definitely unnerving, but the psychologist who knew them very well talked with them and helped them move to the car, promising things would be better. They were very withdrawn for the 20-30 minute ride to the secluded hotel in the countryside and began weeping again when we drove through the neighborhood they recognized as where their foster family lived. (We're thankful their last foster family was a good experience!) But once we got to the hotel where we had prepared a welcome party for them, things started getting better. They enjoyed their presents and their cake and finally began smiling. (The tricycle was a big hit!) Before the day was over things were really looking up and they were looking forward to their new life. There was still some hesitancy, as we were complete strangers to them. But you could tell they had been prepared for our arrival and that helped a lot.
  • Nov 21-25: We tried to develop a normal routine with the kids, including making our beds in the morning, regular mealtimes, Bible reading, prayers and singing before bed, etc. We also had some outings to places like PANACA (an amusement park dedicated to promoting interaction with animals and agriculture) and Salento, one of the most beautiful areas of Colombia, reminding you of the European Alps. The hotel we were staying at, Mi Mónaco, was a former coffee plantation that had been converted to a bed and breakfast type facility and they had a playground and pool, which the children really enjoyed. It was a time of getting to know each other, learning boundaries and building relationships.
  • Nov 26: We traveled into town in the morning to sign a power of attorney for our attorney to represent us before the court so that we didn't have to appear at every event. In the afternoon we met with the interdisciplinary team again for the final followup visit before the legal paperwork could be filed. They agreed to meet us at the hotel rather than having the children revisit the place where they had experienced the emotions of meeting us and the visit went exceptionally well. The team was amazed at how well the children were doing and how they were bonding to us. It ended with them giving their whole-hearted approval for the adoption.
  • Nov 27: Our paperwork was filed and we packed up and headed to Cali. We had been told it would take 2-3 weeks before the paperwork was final and Cali had so much more to offer than the (relatively) small town of Armenia. Plus, we would be staying in an apartment rather than a hotel, which would give us more of a sense of family. So off we go!
  • Nov 28-Dec 8: Here we are in Cali, enjoying this city of over 3,000,000 people and bonding as a family. The change to the apartment has been WONDERFUL! It is the best thing we could have done as we have a kitchen, livingroom (you don't realize how much you miss a couch until you don't have one!), dining area, plus the children have their own bedroom and we even have a separate "time-out room" (which has been needed a lot for little Anderson!) While here we have visited the Cali Zoo, the "Christ the King" statue of Jesus (one of the 10 tallest in the world), visited the historic downtown, attended a "Día de las Velitas" traditional gathering in Magnolia's home and otherwise engaged ourselves in daily living. The children's favorite part of the stay here is the pool and the playground, where they are making friends with other children living in the apartment complex. This has been a wonderful time in our bonding journey and I'm grateful for this place.

  • That brings us up to date. Right now we are waiting for the notification that the adoption is final and then I will travel by bus to Armenia to sign the "sentencia" (adoption decree), making it all legal. Afterwards we'll all fly to Bogota to start the final phase of our journey (medical exams, TB tests, ID cards and passports with their new names, US Embassy visits for final visa approval, etc). That should take about a week. We're hoping to get to go this coming week, which would mean that if we can change our flight back to the states, we could be home for Christmas!!!

    Has it been easy? No, it definitely hasn't. Providing 24-hour care for a 4 and 7 year old is tiring, especially for folks who are old enough to normally be enjoying grandchildren for awhile and then sending them home to their parents!!! Anderson's tantrums can be overwhelming and Karen is still processing things, causing her to be withdrawn at times. They have intense sibling rivalry going on and compete for our attention and affection, even though they don't have to. But in spite of all of this, we wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. 

    I'm learning how much I'm like Anderson in my relationship with God ... demanding my way, shaking my fist at Him when I don't get my way and pouting when I get the consequences of my wrong actions, as if they were somehow God's fault! And I'm seeing in Karen all the signs of a broken generation that longs for meaning and value, hoping for a relationship with a Father, but pushing Him away at the same time, all the while secretly hoping He will pursue her, and being pleasantly surprised when He does.

    All along I knew that adoption would change my life. I just thought it would be more along the lines of freedoms I'd be missing out on or things I would have to give up. But in reality, it's caused me to slow down and enjoy these little blessings from God, reevaluating all the other "stuff" I've filled my life with. I've got another chance to be the dad and husband I wanted to be and I want to make the most of it.

    I'm also especially grateful for my church and family's support. Karen and Anderson absolutely LOVE the video-chats with their sisters, grandparents, aunt and cousins (and dog and cat!). And they have loved greeting the church and being hams when we Skype our greetings in on Sundays. They know they are loved and are looking forward to finally getting to the United States! (They ask me every day if it's today!) But let me warn you ... as much as we all thought we were in this to change their lives, I think they're going to change ours! Thank you for being on this journey with us!

    I love serving Jesus with you!
    Nathan

Wednesday, November 06, 2013

Our Adoption Story ... Part 6

Hello friends!

In my last update I shared that the "Adoption Express" was picking up speed. Well it's literally traveling at light-speed now! This past week has seen us complete several significant milestones and if things continue going on the current track, we will be traveling in less than 2 weeks to get our children!

One of the hurdles was getting the USCIS provisional approval this past week to classify our adoptive children as relatives for the purposes of receiving a visa. Our application has been sent by the National Visa Center to the US Consulate in Bogota for final approval. Today we filed the online corresponding application and anticipate receiving the final approval and authorization to travel very, very soon!!

Another hurdle was filing for our Colombian visa so we can travel to Colombia. We can't go on a tourist visa as there is a special adoption visa we have to apply for. We completed the application online today and sent all the required documents via FedEx this afternoon. This packet includes our original passports, several pages of documentation and a couple of cashier's checks for the appropriate fees, as you can see in the picture. It's a little scary to send off your passport, but that's just how it goes. We also included a personal note to the Colombian Consular who has helped many adoptive families get their visas. Hopefully we'll have our visas back in just a few days and be able to purchase our plane tickets!

It's amazing how quickly all this is happening after almost four years of the process! God's timing is always right on, even if it doesn't neatly fit our agenda. We just learn to adjust our agenda to His timing. :) Thank you all for your prayers and amazing support. Your encouragement is much appreciated!!!

Blessings,
Nathan

Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Our Adoption Story ... Part 5

Welcome back!

The "Adoption Express" is picking up speed and I'm excited to share another update! On August 5, 2013, Lori and I got the phone call to tell us the ICBF (the Colombian agency that oversees adoptions) had given us their approval to adopt the two specific children we had applied to adopt in November of 2012! That was the phone call we had been waiting over 3 years to get, since we originally were trying to adopt from Mexico in 2010, and it set into motion a chain of events that will culminate in us traveling to Colombia, South America in the next couple of months to legally adopt these two beautiful siblings! There's still a lot of work to be done and several hurdles to clear, but the train has left the station! (OK, that's too many mixed metaphors, but I'm too excited to care!)

As I mentioned, there's still a lot of work to be done. Here's a brief synopsis of what's left:

  • Receive the official referral documents translated into English. (+/- 2 weeks)
  • Submit the I-800 application to the USCIS for final US approval (+/- 4 weeks)
  • Await Article 5 permission to travel (+/- 2 weeks)
  • Travel to Colombia (+/- 2 weeks after permission received)
  • Meet the children and complete legal adoption (+/- 5 weeks in country)
  • Return home with our new daughter and son!!!
I wish I could show you the pictures of these beautiful children but I haven't received permission to post them yet so you'll just have to believe me when I tell you they're beautiful!!!

We are so grateful for God's guidance and provision throughout this entire journey. It's been amazing to see how He's worked the details, even in having us start with Mexico and end up in Colombia. (That's another story for another blog.) It's been longer and more expensive than we thought, but through it all He has sustained us and demonstrated His care with amazing examples of provision and support through His children. And we know He will complete the work He started in us!

Thank you for praying for us, supporting us and encouraging us in this journey. You are a part of this life-changing experience of God's adoptive love!

Blessings,
Nathan

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Our Adoption Story ... Part 4

Hello again!

Can you believe two updates in a week?! I'm trying to be intentional about sharing on the blog and this is me following through on my commitment to myself! Where better to start than to update you on our adoption story ... especially since the last update on our adoption was almost a year ago! So here goes!

There has actually been a pretty significant change in our adoption story. When I left you last, we had just submitted the paperwork for our first 15 month extension on the USCIS approval and were hoping to not have to do that again. We had met with the Mexican officials in Puebla the previous November and had been having some ongoing dialog with them via email. However, that excitement was short-lived as shortly into the new year they stopped responding to my emails.

As month after month went by without any responses we reached out to our adoption agency, only to find that they were hitting the same walls. Phone calls were not returned, emails did not receive responses ... it's as if the Puebla adoption office had dropped off the face of the earth! Now in their defense, last year was a presidential election for Mexico and that's always a time of great turmoil with lots of turnover in governmental jobs, so we tried to be patient.

Our adoption agency also seemed to sense everyone's increasing concern and in September they contacted all of us in the Mexico program to share that they understood our frustration and offered to allow us to switch programs. They had recently begun working with the South American country of Colombia and had a list of children on the "waiting child" list that were cleared for adoption, with pictures! Lori was immediately drawn to a brother and sister on the list, but I thought we needed to stick it out with the Mexico program. But those sure were some cute kids!!!

Another month rolled around with no contact from Mexico and Lori kept looking at the pictures of the cute brother and sister, feeling more drawn to them. I have to admit, they sure were cute! (Or did I already say that?! ) Late in October we decided to send an email to the Puebla office asking for an update and sharing that we had the opportunity to adopt two children from the "waiting child" list in Colombia. We explained that we were happy to wait on Mexico, as long as we knew the program was still ongoing. All we needed was to hear back from them just to give us some hope. We sent the email on October 25 and decided if we didn't hear back from them in 2 weeks, we would take that as a sign we should shift to the Colombia program.

Two weeks came and went without a peep from Puebla so we decided to that was the Lord's direction for us. (And as of February 12, 2013, we still have not received an answer to our email ... almost FOUR months later!!!) So we wrote a "letter of intent" for our agency to forward on to Colombia to express that we desired to adopt the brother and sister! And then our journey to adopt began to speed up to hyperdrive!

In order to make the change we had to update our homestudy (which would have had to have been updated for the next renewal anyhow) - and that included getting updated medical checkups, an updated psychological profile, updated financial status, updated background checks ... you get the picture! The big question was getting our homestudy to approve the change of countries, and, more importantly, the change of adopting TWO children instead of one. But the good news is that all the updates came through and the homestudy was approved, recommending us to adopt the two children!!!

Our next step is to send all this info to USCIS to request an extension, change of country and number of intended adoptees. Once we have that approval, we'll have the entire packet translated and submitted to Colombia as the official application. We're told that because the children are on the "waiting child" list and are already approved to be adopted, that our application will be "fast-tracked" and we'll have an answer in 15 working days (although we've also been warned that it could stretch out a little bit due to different holidays, etc). Once we have the official "referral" from Colombia, we then resubmit the packet to USCIS for approval for these specific children ... AND THEN WE TRAVEL TO COLOMBIA!!! 

We don't have a specific time-frame for this, but it looks like it will be sometime during the summer! Yes, THIS summer!!! So Lori's really ramping up the house preparation, getting the room ready for two instead of one. She's put her massage therapy license on hold for this year to prepare for the kids and be able to devote her time exclusively to the children when they finally do arrive. And I'm doing a lot of self-examination about time management to make sure I'm ready to be the dad these beautiful children deserve.

In looking back at our journey, it's been a long one. And it's not over yet. We first started seriously considering adoption after the Haiti earthquake back in January, 2010. Soon we realized that Haiti would not be adopting children out for a long time and we began looking at other countries, eventually settling on Mexico, and now finally adopting from Colombia. In looking back, we can see how the Lord directed us to this point. It's especially significant to us that the children we're adopting came into the program well after we began the process ... but became available to us just as we began to realize the Mexico program was not going to pan out. The Lord had positioned us and timed everything beautifully!

I wish I could share pictures of the children or share more about them, but until things are final you'll just have to take my word that THESE KIDS ARE CUTE!!! :) Thanks for your prayers and encouragement along the way. And I'll keep you posted ... I promise!

Blessings,
Nathan

Sunday, February 10, 2013

Beyond Ordinary - a must read

Hello again!

How many times can I say that it's been a long time since I posted anything? I think I've run out of excuses! So rather than offer an excuse, here's a new post ... in the form of a book recommendation for "Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Just Isn't Good Enough"!

It's weird how I found this book. Back on January 10 I was studying for my upcoming message on "Why Church" (video) and in googling the phrase "why church" I came across a series of articles on the Prodigal Magazine website called precisely that, "Why Church." In the series several writers explain why they love the church, even with all its flaws and shortcomings. I read each article with interest, and found great value in reading them. It's amazing how much hurt takes place in organizational churches, and as a pastor I know I've caused some hurt as well. I am flawed and I let people down. I try to  make it right, but I know I don't always do that and there are probably some stories that could be told about the people I've hurt. But it was beautiful to read people's stories of why they loved the church in spite of the miscues, stubbed toes, hurt feelings and other maladies that go with interacting with fallen humanity. So I encourage you to take some time to read some of those articles for your own benefit. (*Insert standard disclaimer here about how I don't necessarily agree with everything on the site, blah, blah, blah. Just read and decide for yourself! )

In the midst of all those articles there was one called "A Death in the Family" by a fellow named Matt Appling who I had never heard of before (which isn't saying much - you'd be surprised who I don't know!). I really enjoyed reading the article so I clicked on the author's name which took me to his blog (*insert standard disclaimer here about how I don't necessarily agree ... yadda, yadda, yadda... ;) and it just so happens that his most recent blog entry was entitled "Why I Don't Like Marriage Books (Except This One)" - well that instantly got my attention. As I read it I understood what he meant about how most marriage books are written from the idealistic point-of-view by people who have it all together and if you'll just follow their few steps, you'll have it all together too. I added a comment to his blog about liking Gary Chapman's "Five Love Languages" and Willard Harvey's "His Needs: Her Needs" and then I said I looked forward to reading the book.

Let me tell you, I didn't know what I was getting myself into! After purchasing and downloading the Kindle version of the book I found myself pulled into the story as Justin and Trish Davis (of RefineUs Ministries) take turns walking the reader through their story from each one's point of view. This is no ivory tower marriage! They bravely lay bare the mistakes and failures they each made as their marriage began drifting towards the shoals that eventually destroyed it, bringing them to the decision of rebuilding it from the bottom up. I was stunned as I read things that I completely identified with - attitudes, excuses, selfishnesses ... they were all plainly there for me to see in my own life as I read page after page and encouraged my wife to read along with me.

She, too, was caught up in the story and actually finished the book before me. We found ourselves talking about the parts of the story that we identified with, owning up to mistakes we had made, confessing areas that were revealed to us that we were still holding on to even after 25 years of marriage and ministry. It was so refreshing to have these conversations. And painful! But so healing!!! Even though we had not made all the same mistakes, there were many layers of issues that began to be peeled back in our conversations, and we're looking forward to even more great talks as we plan to re-read the book together and have recommended it to several friends.

Justin and Trisha, you'll probably never read this, but thank you for having the courage to open up your lives to others and share the hope and healing you've found. You've paved a way for many to follow. We're right behind you! We no longer settle for "good enough" ... we want EXTRAORDINARY! And if my friends want extraordinary too, they'll get this book! And now, back to your regularly scheduled scrolling. :)

Blessings,
Nathan